A really hateful comment.
And it really bothered me.
Because it came from a former friend.
In regards to my Things I Am Afraid To Tell You post.
Apparently, I was right in being afraid.
And I was told by my family and friends this weekend not to let it get to me.
But it did.
And worst of all, it kind of ruined my family time this weekend.
This "friend" has since gone on to send me two more emails to tell me how awful of a human I am.
Well, the last one I just deleted without even reading.
Because I just don't care what she thinks anymore.
I am honest on this blog.
And I let you know who I am.
But there was one part of the Things I Am Afraid To Tell You post that I purposely deleted.
About my youngest daughter.
She has had some behavioral issues in the past 4 years that have been very hard to deal with.
She went to therapy this summer and is much better but some days are harder than others.
Please, please don't be upset if this is how you are finding out about this.
I have struggled with this for so long and felt like a failure as a parent because of it and truly, I didn't want anyone to treat Ella differently after learning this.
This "friend" told me twice (once in the comment and once in an email) that "You don't like your daughter" among the other many mean things she said.
And THAT is the only thing I am addressing.
I have faults, MANY but dammit, don't you EVER insult me as a parent.
Those who know me well, know that my kids are my world.
The past four years have been a struggle for many reasons and yes, there have been many moments where Ella was hard to like, where I was on the bathroom floor alone after she went to bed sobbing, where I was begging God to let this be a good day.
And that is hard to admit but for this disgusting comment to even be written?
Well it got to me.
So please forgive me for venting on here but that is why I blog in the first place.
About my life.
And my fears.
And my faults.
So I am thinking about sticking to only decorating and crafting on the blog from now on.
Because I cannot have another weekend like this past one.
And if you hate a craft or a room I re-did, chances are it isn't going to cut as deep.
I also changed how you can comment on my blog.
Because the above venom came in the form of a brave anonymous post.
So from now on, you will have to name yourself to comment on here.
And it will have to be moderated before it gets published.
I know this might limit me in my comments but I really have to do it for my sanity.
You might not like me, but at least if you tell me so, I will know who you are.
On to something lighter, 'kay?
So a few weeks ago, I shared with you my master bath reveal here.
And I was so excited that I created such an amazing bathroom on such a small budget that I decided to redo our girls bathroom too.
Because not only is it the girls bathroom but it is also the bathroom that all our overnight guests use.
And frankly, it was sad.
I would walk in there and just get depressed being in the room.
It was just eh.
It wasn't horrible but just not what I would have picked for my girls.
I did like the brushed nickel hardware they used and planned to keep that but wanted to spice it up in here.
The thing is, I have a big gap between my girls.
Almost 8 years big.
So I had to keep them both in mind when creating this shared bath.
Less girly girl but not too tween/adult that it wouldn't even look like a girls bathroom.
There was also a request by my almost 13 year old that there can be no monkeys, owls, frogs, ducks or the color pink in this room.
I mean, thats only ALL they have in the bathroom decor department at Target.
But I will get right on that.
But I will get right on that.
Get rid of that builder mirror.
Get rid of the 80's, backstage, dressing room light fixture.
We are not on Broadway people.
Paint it a little lighter but neutral.
Change up the shower curtain and add new flooring.
Oh and get rid of the towel bar above the potty.
They had three towel bars in this bathroom.
More than any other room in the house.
Apparently, the previous owners kids needed lots of towels.
Yes, there is my plunger.
In the picture.
I really need to take a photography class.
Please, I need to keep it in this room with the fouryearoldwhouseshalfarolloftptowipeherrearend.
Again, like the master bath, I just gave up in here.Can I just say, that bath towels, rugs, accessories etc are just so stinkin' expensive?
I don't get it.
Its where you go pee and poop.
And occasionally read a book, with the door locked, and a glass of wine and bag of Doritos and a flashlight so as to go undetected.
That's just me?
Here it is in the during phase:
Enough to put me in a coma.
I don't do well with the "during" phase.
It makes me all itchy and nervous.
Its all good, I had Halloween candy to comfort me during the "during" phase.
Ok so here is the after.
Are you ready???
Ok so I have a confession.
I think I may love this more than our bathroom redo.
It feels like you are in an elegant hotel bathroom.
Or actually not even like you are in a bathroom at all.
We also decided to redo the floors in this bath just as we did in our master.
With hardwood looking peel and stick flooring from Lowes.
Here is a before of the floors:
And I knew just the person, yet again, to help me out.Bestie Rebecca!
And my four year old Ellie. :)
She dressed herself this day.
Or is that just stating the obvious?
As sweet as it was that she wanted to help, it also got a little frustrating at times.
Until I told her to take some of the extra planks and make something.
She made an "aquarium".
I don't know about you, but I would say thats the best aquarium I have ever seen. :)
And yes, that's my baseboards that have taken 3 months to paint.
Its just that redoing bathrooms is sooo much more fun than baseboards!
I know, I know.
Back to the baseboards......
Rebecca, I am so so so sorry for making you do this with me.
I promise you will get a lunch outta this.
And maybe a spa day.
And also maybe a margarita.
And a cookie.
I should mention that we didn't finish the floor.
We got to the toilet and stopped because we ran out of time and energy.
Its really because we took an hour lunch break.
But it was a gooooood lunch.And we had lots to talk about.
So much more important than the floors.
Anyway. the hubs did finish it for us that evening.
And I knew he was antsy to do something about the floors.
So it was the least I could do for him.
Thank you sweetie!
I promise you will get a dinner outta this.And a beer.
And a cookie.
And here are the floors now:
I just can't stop staring.
This is such an amazing transform.
And it only cost 50 bucks.
Thats including tax.
Here are the before and after's:
I picked green because it can be both feminine and girly yet very teenagerish.Did ya see how I just made up a word there?
I stuck with the brushed nickel so I wouldn't have to buy new towel bars or outlet covers.
I also think the brushed nickel makes it more feminine than oil rubbed bronze, which is what we have in the master bath.
I went in to Lowe's thinking I was going to have to spend at least 50 bucks on a mirror.
When I saw this on clearance for $17.49 and there were only 2 left, I squealed right there in the mirror aisle.
I couldn't believe my good luck.
I went back the following week to pick something up and went down the aisle to see if they were still there.
Deal of the year for me.
Towel bar gone.
Now my girls initials are there.
From Hobby Lobby for 50% off.
This can always be easily changed as they grow up too.
The pots on the toilet?
Got those at Dollar Tree years ago.
Filled with green moss stones.Also from DT from years ago.
Anna shrieked when we revealed it to her.
I kinda did too.
Its so much more amazing than it was in my head when I was putting this together.
And those floors!!!
Here is the final tally for a brand new bathroom for my sweet girls:
1- flooring- Style Selections Antique Woodland Oak @ Lowe's. 47.20 for a box of 20 planks. More than enough, some even leftover, for this little bath.
2- faucet- Delta Windemere at Lowe's. 59.00 on sale, regularly 79.00.
3- mirror- 17.49 on clearance at Lowe's.
And there are none left.
I went back and checked.
4- lighting- brushed nickel frosted glass vanity- 42.48 at Home Depot.
5- shower curtain- restyle at Target 14.99
6- bath rug- same at Target 19.99
7- letters above toilet- Hobby Lobby for 9.99 total for both. They were 50% off, normally 9.99 each.
8- pots on the toilet tank- had these so no money spent. Pots from Dollar Tree and the green rocks too. I just spray painted the pots with chalkboard paint.
9- knobs on vanity- Hobby Lobby for 3.99 total after 50% off.
10- paint- color is Revere Pewter by Sherman Williams. No extra money spent since this is the color that we painted our bathroom. AND I had it mixed at Home Depot NOT at Sherwin Williams to save money.
Grand total- $215.13
Both girls LOVE their new bath.
Not a frog or monkey in sight.
And something that when guests come, won't make them cringe to use the bathroom.